In a sense, becoming a sugar daddy is about the easiest thing in the world to do if you have enough money. Apart from the admittedly challenging task of finding the right sugar baby, there is seemingly little more to do aside from making sure that you live up to your responsibility as financial provider.
In truth however, there is a lot more to being a sugar daddy than merely paying the bills. There are many things you can do to ensure that the relationship is a happy and rewarding one for both partners. There are also just as many mistakes that you could make, each of which can negatively impact on the quality of the relationship.
When you think about it, the entire sugar dating scenario is itself a fertile ground for trouble. The whole idea of paying for the companionship and affection of a sugar baby–oftentimes many years younger than you–is rife with disaster, and there are way too many things that can go wrong. These are several common mistakes that you should avoid if you wish to have a successful and fruitful arrangement with your sugar baby.
There are also mistakes that are more detrimental to you than to your sugar baby. These most often have to do with being taken advantage of, which is a fairly common occurrence in the world of sugar dating. While you will want to make sure that your sugar baby is happy and secure in the relationship, you also want to make sure that you aren’t being taken for a ride.
Taking your sugar baby for granted
Sugar babies are primarily looking for a sugar daddy that will take care of their material and financial needs. In return, they provide companionship and affection, and even see to your physical and other needs. You can’t be remiss in living up to your end of the bargain and expect your sugar baby to simply put up with it. In addition to making sure that her financial needs are provided for according to your agreement, you will also be expected to take her out on occasion, buy her nice things, and generally play the role of a caring and attentive boyfriend. Keep taking your sugar baby for granted, and you risk losing her regardless of how rich you are.
Taking advantage of your sugar baby
Your sugar baby isn’t your maid, housekeeper, errand girl, or caregiver. Unless you have come to a clear understanding that she will be expected to fulfill any or all of these roles, you shouldn’t expect or ask her to do anything more than to be your companion or girlfriend. Some sugar daddies have even been known to maintain more than one sugar baby, with “old standbys” often cast aside for the fresh new “flavor of the month”. A sugar dating relationship should be based on mutual respect. Treating your sugar baby like a doormat or an emotional punching bag isn’t exactly the best way to show that you respect her!
Expecting your sugar baby to conform to your expectations
As in any other relationship, expecting your sugar baby to conform to your expectations of what a girlfriend, wife, or lover should be is about one of the worst things you can do. When you insist that your sugar baby talk, dress, or act a certain way, the message that you are putting across is that you don’t really think much of who she is as a person. This is kind of insulting when you think about it, and no sugar baby with any amount of self-respect will put up with it for very long. If you aren’t happy with some aspect of your sugar baby’s personality, talk about it in a calm and reasonable manner…or put an end to the relationship. But don’t keep her in a position of having to live up to your unreasonable standards.
Trying to be something–or someone–you’re not
In the same way, you shouldn’t try to be something you’re not. Obviously, you shouldn’t try to pass yourself off as some kind of oil magnate if you are struggling to make mortgage payments every month. You also shouldn’t try to come across as a club-going, fast-living adrenaline-junkie senior if you typically prefer quiet time at home instead of partying or braving the great outdoors. Often done to give off the impression of being wealthier or younger than you actually are, these tactics are likely to backfire on you once the truth is revealed. Be who you are and be happy with that. If a certain sugar baby can’t accept that, then maybe she isn’t the one for you.
Having an unrealistic picture of the relationship
A sugar dating relationship is based on the premise that you will be providing for the financial needs of your sugar baby. In return you get to have a sort of girlfriend that will go out with you, possibly sleep with you, and generally perform all the roles that you would expect from a typical girlfriend. However, you can’t–and shouldn’t–expect her to be emotionally invested in you as if you were a “real couple”. If she does fall for you at some point in the course of your relationship, consider that a bonus, especially if the feeling is mutual. But simply assuming that she should be in love with you is setting yourself up for disappointment.
Letting your emotions get the better of you
Never let yourself be ruled by your emotions. Always keep in mind that your relationship is built on a mutually beneficial arrangement between two consenting adults. Once you start having expectations about how she should reciprocate your affections or you begin to entertain notions of settling down, it may be time to assess the nature of your relationship.
Not knowing when to walk away
Finally, know when the relationship has run its course and when you should put an end to it. At some point, any sugar dating arrangement will have outlived its value and its usefulness to you. Staying together past that point will just keep you locked in an unpleasant situation and make it more difficult for you to walk away later on.