After you have made the decision to become a sugar daddy, the next order of business is finding a sugar baby. Now, before you head off to your nearest adult dating site and start throwing your bankroll around, it would be advisable to give some thought to what type of sugar baby is best for you. You might also spare a minute to figure out the most efficient method for finding a sugar baby that fits your lifestyle and preferences to a ‘T’.
This is probably the single most important decision you could make prior to actually selecting a sugar baby from all the available options. The right sugar baby could make or break the relationship, and it will greatly affect the satisfaction you derive from the experience. Knowing where to begin your search for a sugar baby will also help you cut through the muck, and avoid the flakes and scammers that are unfortunately prevalent in the sugar dating world.
In the “real world”
With most everything being done online nowadays, it is easy to discount the possibility of being able to find a sugar baby in the “real world”. But hitting your local singles scene is still a very viable option, and it offers a number of benefits that you wouldn’t be able to get by automatically resorting to an online search.
Try to make the rounds of the singles bars in your area, particularly those that cater to an older clientele. Many such establishments are literally teeming with young and available women in search of a sugar daddy that they can spend the next several months with.
Trying out your luck in the real world also gives you the advantage of being able to check out your options up front. In the oftentimes anonymous world of online sugar dating, it is way too easy for sugar babies to present themselves as someone or something they are not.
While scams and unscrupulous people do exist in the real world, you at least have the advantage of being able to gauge their authenticity early on in the process and in person. This could help speed up the process considerably, and enable you to more easily separate the promising prospects from the flakes.
If your local dating scene is severely lacking in options, you may choose to check out some online sugar dating sites. This would also be a more feasible course of action if your location or distance from any major dating scene makes it impossible or impractical for you to make the rounds.
Sites such as SecretBenefits.com provide an excellent online venue wherein you could check out several potential matches quickly and easily. After browsing through the listings, you could make a short list of prospective sugar babies that appeal to you. At that point, you could simply send a message and set up a personal chat. After you have exchanged communications for a while, you can then set up a date to meet in person.
You can augment these options and even totally supplant them by asking for recommendations from friends and family. In particular, people you know that have already been involved in a sugar dating relationship or are currently in one may be able to give you some leads. This could come in the form of recommendations for sugar dating sites or for actual sugar babies that they know are looking for a sugar daddy.
Getting recommendations could actually be a much better way to go about searching for a sugar baby for many reasons. Sites recommended to you have already been vetted by your friends, and they could help you avoid shady sites populated by scammers and fake accounts. It would be even better if your friend can recommend a specific sugar baby, as you at least have a good chance of dealing with a legitimate individual who isn’t looking to scam you out of your money.
More often than not, sugar babies that are part of a sugar dating relationship also have friends that are looking to become sugar babies themselves. This could help you cut to the chase, as you already have access to a sugar baby who knows what she wants and who probably doesn’t have the time or inclination to mess around.
General sugar dating advice
Regardless of how you go about looking for a sugar baby, it would be advisable to keep a few basic tips in mind.
First of all, don’t automatically assume that every sugar baby you come across is legitimately looking for a sugar dating relationship. It is an unfortunate fact of life that the sugar dating world is rife with scams and deception, and there is a very real risk of ending up with someone who is simply out to fleece you of your money. Keep an open mind and be gracious with everyone you meet, but don’t be a sucker.
Secondly, try not to seem too eager or to give away all your secrets at once. Not everyone will be as honest and as forthcoming as you are, and you are opening yourself up to being taken advantage of if you seem too naïve or too gullible. Even if the sugar baby you end up with isn’t an outright scammer, it is far too easy to be exploited or victimized by a predatory sugar baby if you don’t take steps to protect yourself.
Finally, learn to say no. It can be quite tempting to give in to your sugar baby’s every demand or request, particularly if she is extremely attractive or charming, or a firecracker in bed. While you want to be generous and accommodating to your sugar baby, you don’t necessarily want anyone to abuse your kindness either. Be open, caring, attentive, and magnanimous, but don’t stand for any BS.
Deciding to become a sugar daddy could well be one of the most exciting decisions you could make in your later years. Keep your wits about you while you have fun, and it may just turn out to be an experience you will never forget.