Not everyone who is thinking of getting into sugar dating can do so in full confidence. For every person that is ready, willing, and able to take the plunge, there are a handful of people that are worried and even fearful at the prospect of becoming a sugar daddy or a sugar baby.
For those about to embark on this new adventure for the first time, it is normal and understandable to feel some hesitation. If you are planning on becoming a sugar daddy or a sugar baby and are now dealing with a case of the jitters, know that you are not alone.
What is there to be worried about?
There are actually a number of reasons why some worry and fear is justifiable. There is always some degree of risk involved in allowing a total stranger to get close to you, and this goes for sugar daddies as well as sugar babies. On the part of the sugar daddy, there is a risk of ending up with a conniving and/or manipulative sugar baby, in addition to being victimized by a pro scammer or con artist merely pretending to be a sugar baby.
Sugar babies face many risks as well, from being subjects of emotional and/or physical abuse to being exploited by organized crime groups.
Taking necessary precautions
Admittedly, all those scenarios paint a pretty dire picture of the sugar dating world. But it isn’t all that bad all the time. Becoming a sugar daddy or a sugar baby can just as well be a rewarding and worry-free experience, if you take a few precautions.
The first step is ensuring that you connect only with the right people. It can be challenging to determine the trustworthiness of a total stranger based only on a photo and a few lines on a profile, so you will have to do some homework. Look thoroughly into the background of the people you are considering as your mate, and get to know their friends and family as well. A thorough Google search may also prove revealing, and you may even go to the extent of hiring a private investigator depending on the stakes.
Testing the waters
Don’t enter into any compromising situations if at all possible, and certainly not at the start of your acquaintance. It is always a good idea to restrict your initial encounters to public places, during times of the day when you know that there will be plenty of people around. You should also let friends or family members know exactly where you are at all times, and when they could expect you to be back.
As time goes on and you become more familiar with your partner, you may begin to ease your guard a little. But always keep your eyes open for any sign of negative or aberrant behavior, or some personality trait that signals danger.
Taking the plunge
At some point, you will become so warmed up to your mate that the next inevitable step is to take the plunge and become part of a couple. Even at this stage, it is natural to still feel some jitters about being a sugar daddy or a sugar baby. A good way to deal with this is by making an effort to integrate your sugar dating relationship with the other areas of your life. Any relationship that exists in a vacuum is at risk of turning into a sort of emotional echo chamber, in which you are not able to make fully rational decisions. When this happens, you may no longer be acting in your best interests.
Keeping your wits about you
It is important to keep yourself grounded in reality at all times. Even if things are going particularly well, always make sure that the situation you are in is working out to your benefit. Sure, you will also want to ensure that your partner is getting equal say and equal benefit out of your arrangement. But the minute the relationship makes you feel less of a partner than your mate is the minute that it stops working out for you. Always keep a clear head and a rational view of the relationship whether it is going well or it is headed for the rocks. In this way, you will continue to ensure that the relationship is beneficial to you.
Knowing when to pack it in
Knowing when to give up on a hopeless situation isn’t always an easy thing. Inexplicably, many people hesitate to pull the plug on a relationship even if it is clearly disadvantageous to them. It might be because of insecurity or unwillingness to ‘rock the boat’, but sugar daddies and sugar babies are often equally guilty of sticking with a partner long past the relationship’s expiration date.
Knowing when to hold on and to work out the issues in the relationship is an essential quality to have as well. Not every situation necessitates cutting and bailing at the first sign of trouble, and you will have to learn when the situation calls for sticking it out with your partner and working it out. Even so, you should definitely know when giving up is the only logical option.
Learning to enjoy yourself
If you have done your homework and ensured that your situation is as good as it gets–and yet you still feel some discomfort over being a sugar daddy or sugar baby–the best thing to do might be to ease up a bit and try to enjoy the experience. It may very well be that there is nothing at all wrong with the situation that you now find yourself in, and it is only residual anxiety that is getting in the way of you having a good time. In this particular scenario, it might be a good idea to let your guard down a little, and enjoy being a part of a sugar dating relationship. Maintain a measure of caution to be sure, but also remember to enjoy the process. Eventually, you may find yourself totally over your fear of sugar dating!