Becoming a sugar daddy is as simple–or as complicated–as you want to make it. Sure you can simply hang out at your local singles bar and hope to meet a suitable partner the “traditional” way. But as many prospective sugar daddies will tell you, this approach tends to be quite inefficient at best, and at worst, a complete waste of time.

Just like many other things worth pursuing, the results you get and the satisfaction you derive from becoming a sugar daddy often depends on how much effort you put in. Instead of diving headlong into the singles scene, you might want to consider a more systematic approach.

With that in mind, we have put together a 10 step guide on how to become a sugar daddy. Each of the 10 steps will be covered in more detail in separate blog posts, so consider this as a sort of primer. In any case, it is our hope that this guide will help you along the path toward becoming a happy and fulfilled sugar daddy.


Step 1: Figure Out Why You Want To Be A Sugar Daddy

The first step of the process is also one of the most important. Making a thorough and honest assessment of why you want to become a sugar daddy will save you a lot of time and effort, as well as minimize potential problems and help ensure your success.

Are you looking for a long-term relationship or simply to hook up for a few months? How much of your time, money, and emotions are you willing to commit? These are only some of the questions that you will have to ask yourself even before you get on a sugar daddy dating site.

It is important to be as honest with yourself as possible at this stage of the game and to leave nothing to chance. This will help ensure a much greater chance of success and maximize the rewards that you are able to derive from your planned relationship.


Step 2: Get On A Sugar Daddy Dating Site

This is the step where you dip a toe into the water and make your first move toward actually getting into the sugar dating arena. Creating a profile at a sugar dating site will essentially send out a signal that you are out and searching for a potential match.

Needless to say, it is important to put your best foot forward when putting together your public profile. The key is to play up your strengths and present your best qualities, while being as honest and accurate as possible.

One of the worst things you can do is to misrepresent yourself or to make false and deceptive claims about your age, appearance, financial capability, and any other major personal aspects. Although doing so may increase the number of contacts you initially get, things can quickly turn sour when a potential match realizes you have been lying all along.


Step 3: Formulate An Organized Plan

Nothing worth pursuing succeeds without even a rudimentary plan in place. In the world of sugar dating, having a clearly defined and well-planned course of action is the single most important thing you can do to ensure your success.

Keeping organized is especially important once the contacts start coming in. Depending on how well you have presented yourself in your public profile, you may find yourself with more prospects than you know what to do with. Things can quickly become unmanageable if you don’t have some type of organized system for keeping track of all your prospects.

A spreadsheet program could be a great help at this stage of the proceedings. You could for instance, set up columns for all prospective contacts, along with their personal details, interests, and so on. You can then organize the list further into potential matches and prospects to avoid as you see fit.


Step 4: Establish Initial Contact

At this point, you will have hopefully narrowed your list down to a few promising prospects. This is when you should make the first step toward establishing contact via a personal message.

Of course, you should assume that most any sugar baby will have been in contact with other prospective sugar daddies as well. This is why it is important to make your initial attempt at contact as distinct and as memorable as possible.

Your goal at this stage is to make a compelling first impression. Generic messages should therefore be avoided. Try to reveal some unique aspect of your character or personality, and don’t neglect to mention some special quality or attribute that she has as well. This will show that you have actually read her profile, and that you see her as a real person instead of just one out of many prospects.


Step 5: Make The Call

After a series of personal messages, you will probably have a clearer idea of the feasibility of a particular sugar baby prospect. This is the point when you should make the first phone call.

Personal messages are tremendously important, and they can reveal many things about the person you are communicating with. Apart from actually meeting the person face-to-face however, a phone call is the best way to get to know more about a person on a deeper level. In a phone call, you can detect characteristics such as mood, temperament, patience (or lack thereof), and the like.

A phone conversation is also much harder to fake than a private message exchange, By talking to a prospective sugar baby in real-time, you will be better able to determine how she responds instinctively, how she deals with social settings, and how she thinks on her feet.


Step 6: Do Plenty Of Research

At this point, you will be even closer to finding your perfect match, which is when the real work begins. The importance of doing thorough research at this point cannot be overstated. This could be quite challenging of course, particularly if the prospective sugar baby in question is actually not who she claims she is, or if she is misrepresenting herself in some way.

How far you can go with regard to verifying her identity is almost entirely dependent on how much of her personal life she is willing to share. You may be able to talk to her friends or people she knows socially, but talking to her family may be out of the question. You may also be able to get some valuable information by looking up her name online, although you will of course have to ascertain that she has provided you with her real name in the first place.


Step 7: Focus On The Positive Prospects

Now is the time to separate the wheat from the chaff, so to speak. At some point, you will have to determine which prospects have a good chance of working out well and which ones are simply a waste of time. Obviously, you will continue to focus your efforts on the former, while simply discarding the latter.

As firm and decisive as you should be at this stage, you don’t necessarily have to be rude or unpleasant about it. A few of the prospects you have decided to reject may not necessarily be ‘bad’ people or scammers–they may simply not be what you are looking for at this particular time. Therefore, it is advisable not to burn bridges and to let them know that you are considering other potential matches. Be as graceful as possible, and make an effort to part as friends.


Step 8: Set Up A First Date

The first date is one of the biggest moments in your journey toward finding a perfect sugar baby. This is what your months and weeks of preparation have been leading up to, so you had better make it count. As important as it was to make a favorable impression during your initial text contact, it is doubly important now. What goes on during your first date will have a huge impact on the success–or failure–of what comes after, so don’t blow it!


Step 9: Decide On A Mutually Beneficial Arrangement

If your first–and subsequent–dates went well, you may come to a point where you will want to set the terms for a mutually beneficial arrangement. Whether you are looking for a hookup that lasts for a month tops or a permanent relationship that lasts indefinitely, you will want to lay down some ground rules for the arrangement.

It is equally important to ensure that you are both getting what you want out of the relationship. No one should feel any pressure to be part of the relationship, and no one should be pushed toward making a commitment before he or she is ready. By approaching the issue in a clear and levelheaded manner that takes both parties feelings and interests into consideration, you will have a much better chance of a rewarding arrangement.


Step 10: Work On Maintaining The Relationship

A sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship doesn’t end there. As with any other relationship between two consenting adults, you will both have to work at maintaining the healthy state of the relationship. The specifics will be slightly different of course, given the nature of the sugar dating relationship, but the dynamics tend to be pretty much the same. As with a “traditional” type of relationship, mutual respect is paramount, and no partner should be expected to get the raw end of the deal.