The first step toward becoming a sugar daddy is figuring out why you want to be one in the first place. This involves making a thorough assessment of your needs and wants. Most anyone can be a sugar daddy simply by deciding to be one. But those that ultimately end up happy and satisfied oftentimes have a clearly defined idea of why they want to be a sugar daddy and what they expect out of the arrangement.
Of course, there isn’t just one way to be a sugar daddy, just as there isn’t simply one type of arrangement. Apart from the basic premise for providing for the needs of your sugar baby, there is a wide variance with regard to the dynamics of the relationship, the type and extent of support you provide, exclusivity concerns, and so on. You will have to set your own parameters even before you attempt to establish contact with a sugar baby, and you will have to communicate your concerns as early on as possible.
What type of sugar baby are you looking for?
It might help to figure out just what you are looking for in a potential match. Do you want someone you could spend all your time with or do you want a more casual relationship in which you only see each other whenever you both feel like it? Do you want an exclusive relationship similar to that of a married couple or would you prefer an arrangement in which both of you are free to see other people as you please? These are often very personal questions, and you will need to determine the answer for yourself and communicate them to your partner if you wish to avoid any potential problems later on.
The cost of being a sugar daddy
Regardless of what type of arrangement you prefer, the one constant factor in any sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship is that you will be assuming the role of the main provider. This is a broad topic in itself, and figuring out how you fulfill that role is an important factor in determining the success of your relationship with your sugar baby.
Let’s face it: most sugar dating arrangements are set up so that–financially speaking–most everything is provided by the sugar daddy. But just how much is “everything”? And more importantly, will you be able to hold up your end of the bargain?
Most sugar babies will expect you to foot at least part of the rental bill every month. Depending on where your sugar baby lives, this could cost you anywhere from a couple of hundred dollars every month to thousands. In some cases, you may even be expected to pay the full amount every month. The good news is that condo and apartment units will usually suffice, so you won’t have to worry about paying rent on a townhouse or similar accommodations in most cases.
You may also be expected to pay for a car. Hopefully you won’t be expected to purchase a brand new luxury model, but that is an expense you will have to figure in. Not many sugar babies will put up with an arrangement in which they are expected to take the bus on dates. Besides, you will want her to have her own mode of transportation if you don’t wish to chauffeur her all over town, which can get old pretty quickly!
There are also living expenses to consider, including utilities, food, and the like. If you are lucky, the sugar baby you ultimately end up with will have pretty much the basic structure of an adult life together, so you may not have to worry about every little detail. However, you should be aware that many sugar babies will expect you to pay for everything down to the last bit of toilet paper, so you will have to decide just how far you are willing to play Daddy Warbucks.
All this isn’t meant to scare you away from being a sugar daddy. Rather it is meant to make you aware of what type of situation you may be getting yourself into so that you don’t get in over your head. Being a sugar daddy means many things, but “cost-effective” and “cheap” aren’t usually among them!
What to expect in return
At this point, you may be wondering: “What’s in it for me?” Why should you want to be a sugar daddy when it seems that all you are doing is hemorrhaging money left and right? The answer to that will actually go back to your needs and expectations with regard to establishing a sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship.
Ask yourself this: What type of person do you want to be to your potential sugar baby? Do you want to be someone she simply calls when she is in a bind and needs cash quickly? Or do you want to establish a more meaningful relationship in which you can plan for a future together regardless of how fleeting and temporary it may be? Determining the answers to these will not only enable you to set the parameters for how far you are willing to take the arrangement, but also give you a better idea of the financial commitment involved.
Protect yourself at all times
If there is one thing you should take away from all this, it is that you should be prepared for the eventual conclusion of the arrangement. By its very definition, a sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship involves providing for the needs of a sugar baby, with you of course playing the role of provider. If at some point your sugar baby feels that those needs will be better fulfilled by someone else, or if you become unwilling or unable to continue keeping up your end of the deal, the arrangement will come to an end.
Always keep in mind that very few sugar daddy-sugar baby relationships last forever. That is the nature of the lifestyle and the few “happily ever after” stories that do exist are the exceptions rather than the rules. It is therefore advisable to manage your expectations and to avoid situations in which you are being taken advantage of. Have fun and enjoy the company of your sugar baby while it lasts, but remember to always keep your best interests in mind.