Research is the one constant factor that runs through the entire sugar dating experience. From the moment you decide that you want to become a sugar daddy, throughout the process of vetting sugar dating sites and likely candidates, all the way to narrowing down your scope and deciding on “The One”, research is something that will require a significant chunk of your time and attention.
The importance of research
Why the need for so much research? And why should you do it every step of the way? The primary purpose of research is to provide you with information that you can use to make a more informed decision. Whether you are looking into what being a sugar daddy entails, checking out the feasibility of the various sugar dating websites, or doing a background check on prospective sugar babies, research will give you a more solid foundation upon which to base your decision.
Equally important is the role that research will play in ensuring your security and protecting your privacy. It is an unfortunate reality that the sugar dating world tends to attract some of the more unsavory elements of society. From unscrupulous and untrustworthy sugar dating sites to fictitious user accounts and outright scammers, the sugar dating world often seems like a maze of hazards just waiting for unsuspecting sugar daddies.
In order to protect yourself against all these risks, careful and thorough research is a must. Researching on the pitfalls common in the sugar dating world will give you a greater awareness of what is in store, ensuring that you have a safe and rewarding experience.
So how do you go about doing research? There are some general steps to follow, along with techniques that apply to specific stages of your journey toward becoming a sugar daddy.
General research into sugar dating websites
For most scenarios, actually signing up at a sugar dating site is the most effective form of research you can do. There is a wealth of information that can be gleaned simply from hanging around at a sugar dating site for a period of time, particularly if there is an active online community. In large and well-established sites, online forums tend to be populated by longtime members and regulars that can provide plenty of invaluable advice.
Obviously, forums associated with a particular site will have members that may be hesitant to speak negatively about the site in question. It might therefore be a good idea to check out sites that cover the entire sugar dating scene in general rather than focusing on a single site. Here you can count on a more balanced collection of viewpoints from many different sugar dating site users. Things can get a bit rowdy at such sites to be sure, and the exchange may get a bit heated, especially when members of different sites have differences of opinion. Even so, the open market of ideas will give you a more accurate picture of the veracity of a certain site.
Looking into the background of potential matches
Arguably more important than researching the merits of sugar dating websites is researching the backgrounds of potential sugar babies. This is where you will really have to pull out all the stops and leave no stone left unturned in finding out as much as you can about a potential match.
A careful assessment of the user profile of each likely candidate is essential. Although you aren’t likely to come across some earthshaking discovery at this early stage of the proceedings, you will at least have a good idea as to whether a particular sugar baby is worth pursuing or not.
Researching your most favorable prospects
At some point, you will have to narrow down your selection to a few promising candidates. More details about that stage will be covered in the next installation of this guide. For now, let’s focus on the research you will need to do after you have whittled down your list.
All the candidates you will be dealing with at this point are compelling enough for you to have included them in your shortlist. You may share a number of common interests for example, or you may have hit it off particularly well during your first few email and message exchanges and phone calls. Consequently, you probably won’t have to do that much more research into hobbies, interests, and the like.
What you do have to look into is the veracity of the information that you have been provided with thus far. How can you actually be sure that the person you’ve been communicating with is a tall, well-built blond with a passion for adventure and long walks on the beach, as she has claimed? More importantly, how can you be sure that she isn’t a professional con artist just preying on gullible sugar daddies?
A good way to go about it is to ask for details such as where she works and where she lives. Hopefully, at this point, your relationship would have already progressed to where she wouldn’t find such a request unreasonable. You can then phone her at times when she isn’t expecting a call or drop in on her–after discussing the possibility of you doing so beforehand, of course.
Red flags and warning signs
Be wary about sugar babies that seem to be too secretive, uncommunicative, or act as if they have something to hide. In the same way, be on your guard when a potential sugar baby seems overly eager to go home with you or have you take her to an unfamiliar part of town. These could be warning signs of an unpleasant background at the least, or a possible scam or extortion attempt at worst.
In the course of doing your research, there will inevitably be times when you feel uneasy or uncomfortable about being too intrusive. In fact, you may even feel downright creepy or clingy. However, what you have to keep in mind is that your security and safety are absolutely crucial concerns that override any reservations you may have. Explain that there may be times when you may be inquisitive and make every attempt to be as unobtrusive as possible. But never apologize for doing what is necessary to ensure your safety and well-being.