Considering that you are reading this article and are browsing the pages of this site, there is a good chance that you are thinking of getting a sugar baby. As you may have realized by now, having a sugar baby is a big decision. Obviously, it is one that could very well have a significant effect on the quality of your life in the near future and possibly even for many years afterwards.
As with any major course of action, your decision should be based on a lot of careful thought and planning. These should ideally be informed by thorough research and consideration of all the possible implications. This will help ensure that you arrive at a sound decision, rather than one that results from impulsiveness or pressure from other people.
One of the most important questions that you will have to ask yourself is “Do I really need a sugar baby?” Right at the outset, it is very important to make the distinction between a “want” and a “need”. Sure, most every man who is otherwise uncommitted and is physically and financially able would want to have a sugar baby…who wouldn’t? The idea of having a pretty young thing by your side at all times is tremendously appealing, and there is the added benefit of possibly having someone see to your physical needs as well.
But as to whether or not these roles are best fulfilled by a sugar baby is the important part of that question. Depending on your assessment of your own unique circumstances, you may find that you need an entirely different type of companion, or that you don’t need any companion at all.
What having a sugar baby entails
Oftentimes, a realization of what you have to put into a relationship is more enlightening than knowing what you want to get out of it. With that in mind, let’s take a look at what the typical sugar dating relationship entails.
The biggest part of your role as a sugar daddy involves handling the financial requirements of your sugar baby. This could mean anything from giving her regular allowances and paying for dates to setting her up in a condo, buying her a car, and basically paying all her expenses. That is something that not many sugar daddies actually need in their lives. But if you can categorically say that you don’t need that kind of responsibility, having a sugar baby may not be for you.
Can you afford to have a sugar baby?
The question that this now brings up is: “Can you actually afford to have a sugar baby?” This is probably one of the most important questions that you will have to ask yourself, and you have to be brutally honest in coming up with an answer. Unless you are an heir to the Rockefeller fortune or you have hit a ridiculously large lottery jackpot, you probably don’t have unlimited amounts of money to throw around. That being the case, even setting up a sugar baby in a modest fashion will take up a considerable chunk out of your finances over the next few years.
Make a thorough and honest assessment of your finances. If you and all the people you care about are set for life, then by all means go for it and be happy. Otherwise, base your decision on how much you can realistically afford to spend on a relationship that may or may not be a permanent thing.
The non-financial aspects of having a sugar baby
There are also non-financial aspects of sugar dating to consider. At the very least, your sugar baby will expect you to be a civil and considerate partner. You may even be expected to be caring, affectionate, attentive, and more generous than you are prepared to be. If you are unable or unwilling to play the role of a sweet and loving sugar daddy, there is a good chance that you are only inviting drama into your life. And drama is definitely something that no one needs!
Are you simply giving in to societal pressure?
Far too many older men enter into a relationship simply because they don’t want to be seen out in public alone, regardless of whether or not they are actually lonely or in need of companionship. That is about one of the worst reasons to take on a sugar baby, and doing so isn’t likely to give you any sort of satisfaction. Be in guard against being pressured to have a sugar baby, whether it is from well-meaning family members or your peers. Learn to be a master of your own destiny and you will be all the happier for it, regardless of whether or not you get yourself a sugar baby.
Alternatives to having a sugar baby
You should also consider the possibility that someone else could fulfill the role that you expect a sugar baby to fulfill. There is no reason why you shouldn’t hit the single circuit and take your chances the old-fashioned way. You won’t even have to “settle” for an older woman if you prefer someone younger. You might be surprised at the number of attractive younger women that actually prefer an older man. True, you may have fewer choices in young, hot, and hard-bodied females, but you’ll never know until you try!
You might also consider the possibility that what you are looking for isn’t so much a sugar baby as a caregiver. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are in need of 24-hour-a-day nursing care. But you may find that between a regular girlfriend and a professional caregiver who looks in on you from time to time that all your needs are provided for without you having to get a sugar baby.
All this isn’t meant to dissuade you from getting a sugar baby if that is what you really want. If you strongly feel that is what you need in order to be happy, then by all means, go for it! But always make sure that the decision you arrive at is in your best interests and that you come to that decision with a clear understanding of what such a relationship involves.