Deciding to become a sugar daddy isn’t quite as crucial a decision as becoming an actual daddy, but it can be equally fraught with worry and hesitation. Unless you are obscenely rich and have unlimited amounts of cash to throw around, the decision to become a sugar daddy is one that will likely take a great deal of thought and consideration.
Even if you do have the cash to spare, becoming a sugar daddy isn’t exactly a decision to be made lightly. Apart from the social implications of hooking up with an obviously much younger woman, you will also have your family’s concerns to keep in mind. The decision can be an especially sticky one if you have children of a young age.
What sugar dating entails
The fact that you are reading this article suggests that you already know what sugar dating is all about and what being a sugar daddy entails. But there may be a few other details that you aren’t aware of.
Apart from the basic requirement of providing for the financial needs of a sugar baby, you may also be placed in a role of mentor or counsel, which would the case if your sugar baby looks to you to help her start a business or achieve some sort of career goal.
A sugar daddy also typically plays the role of a father figure, whether he actively seeks that role or not. Simply by virtue of age and seniority, most sugar daddies are automatically seen as a father figure by their sugar babies, particularly if the relationship does not involve sex.
Qualities that make for a good sugar daddy
Most any man can become a sugar daddy simply by deciding to hook up with a sugar baby. The only real requirement is to be able to provide for the financial needs of the sugar baby.
But this requirement itself deserves careful consideration. Maintaining a sugar baby can be a costly proposition, particularly if the sugar baby is accustomed to a posh and comfortable lifestyle. The cost of a condominium or apartment, a car, living expenses, gifts, medical and emergency care, and more–all these can add up to a pretty hefty sum over time. The most fundamental requirement to becoming a sugar daddy therefore is to be reasonably wealthy.
Sugar daddies may also be required to be kind, patient, and understanding. Remember that there is likely a huge age difference between you and your sugar baby, and this can be a source of considerable conflict. Unless you want to be crossing swords all the time–or you are planning on playing the role of a total dictator–these qualities are essential for maintaining harmony in the relationship.
On the other hand, having a successful and rewarding sugar dating experience also requires the ability to put your foot down when necessary. This is one area of your life wherein you definitely don’t want to be a pushover. There is far too big a risk of a manipulative and selfish sugar baby walking all over you if you are perceived to be a bit of a ‘softy’. Balance your more pleasant and accommodating attributes with intolerance to any type of drama or BS, and you will be all the happier for it.
Preparing yourself for sugar dating
If you feel that you have what it takes to become a sugar daddy, you can then go about setting the stage for your new experience. The first step is to make sure that it is okay with the people you care about. If you have any children, they will obviously have to be at an age where you can explain your need to have a sugar baby to them and have a chance of being understood.
You might also want to take some time to consider how your decision will impact upon your professional and social life. Keep in mind that not everyone will be as understanding and accepting of your decision, and even close friends may take a dim view of you shacking up with a woman half your age.
Testing the waters
Don’t just jump headlong into the deep end of the sugar dating pool. After you have set up your life in preparation for sugar dating, try signing up to a sugar daddy site in order to get a feel of what it’s like. Check out as many different profiles as possible, and get in touch with the women whose profiles have something that appeals to you.
At this point, your goal isn’t necessarily to find “The One”. Instead, you should see it as a sort of “training ground” wherein you learn the ropes and check out all the options that available to you. You can even go on a few casual dates if you want, in order to be better prepared for the time when you are ready to find a sugar baby in earnest.
Taking the plunge
After you have become thoroughly familiar with the sugar dating process and know how to steer clear of scammers and fake accounts, you will be ready to take the plunge. Hopefully, you will also have developed a good idea of what you are looking for in a sugar baby at this point. This is the time to consolidate all your options and to come up with a shortlist of potential sugar babies.
We can’t emphasize enough the importance of checking the backgrounds of each potential prospect thoroughly. Doing this before you go on a date will help you avoid wasting time on sugar babies that have a slim chance of making the cut. Those that you discard won’t necessarily be ‘bad’ people–they may simply be incompatible with your picture of an ideal sugar baby.
Becoming a sugar daddy is a big decision, and you should definitely take the time to think it through. After you have considered the decision from every possible angle, be confident in the realization that there is a sugar baby waiting for you out there, and that you will soon be in the rewarding and fulfilling relationship that you deserve.