In a typical sugar dating relationship, it is often the sugar baby who is subject to the scrutiny of the sugar daddy. Women tend to be judged–often, quite harshly–by men with regard to their capability to serve the roles expected of sugar babies. Fairly or not, this takes place commonly, and many women often feel a pressure to ‘conform’ to expectations.
In the spirit of fair play, we thought it only proper to now focus attention on the men. Being a sugar daddy entails responsibilities, as well as conformance to certain specific roles. Not everyone is cut out to be a sugar daddy, regardless of their ability to support their sugar baby financially. Although the primary role of the sugar daddy is to provide for the financial and material needs of the sugar baby, he is expected to perform other roles and functions as well.
A lot of men think that simply having loads of cash at their disposal makes them perfectly suited to the role of sugar daddy. But there is a lot more to being a sugar daddy than that. Emotional support, career tips, life advice, and more–these are only some of the functions that sugar daddies may be expected to serve above and beyond providing financial support.
Admittedly, there isn’t a single set of criteria that will determine a man’s suitability to be a sugar daddy. Nevertheless, there are some factors that could make it easier to perform the associated tasks and responsibilities. Have a read through the following in order to determine whether you may–or may not be–sugar daddy material.
Let’s just get this out of the way right off the bat. There is no getting around the necessity of having lots of money to spend on a sugar dating lifestyle. Maintaining a sugar baby is a costly proposition, and anyone who tells you otherwise simply doesn’t have a realistic view of what the role of sugar daddy entails. Depending on the specifics of your arrangement with your sugar baby, you may be expected to pay all or part of her rent, buy her a car, take her shopping, and so on. These are pretty much only the basics of what you will be expected to provide–and there will be more–so you’d better make sure your bank account can handle the damage!
A sugar daddy is expected to have some measure of independence from marital–and possibly even family–obligations. Obviously, a sugar daddy will have to be single and unattached romantically, unless you want to keep a sugar baby on the side, which we definitely do not recommend.
You don’t necessarily have to be childless in order to be an effective sugar daddy, but it will take some work to juggle your fatherly responsibilities with the demands of being a sugar daddy. For many men, it takes all their time and energy to function as a real daddy without having to include the demands of being a sugar daddy into the mix.
As with many other aspects of life, having a positive outlook will definitely come in handy if you wish to become an effective sugar daddy. A positive outlook will enable you to focus on the good things about your relationship, and to bring something of value to the table. You tend not to sweat the small things, and you become a generally more pleasant person over all.
A positive outlook will also help keep you from flipping out over every little thing that your sugar baby does. While serious issues can and should be discussed thoroughly, you will find that some of the less trivial aspects of a sugar dating relationship can be dealt with effectively enough simply by adopting a more positive outlook.
Patience and understanding
These two qualities often go hand in hand, and for good reason. The ability to see things through the point of view of the other person is vital for the success of any relationship, and you will quickly appreciate its value in sugar dating. Keep in mind that you are essentially trying to establish a relationship between someone who is a complete stranger to you without the benefit of having the relationship develop organically. Without patience and understanding, the differences between you and your sugar baby might be too much for the relationship to bear.
Related to patience and understanding is maturity. As the older partner in the relationship, you will of course be expected to be the mature one, with your experience and wisdom holding more weight than your sugar baby. This is not to say that what you say goes all of the time. But you do have a slight edge over your sugar baby in that you will have the benefit of more experience–and hopefully more wisdom–to deal with specific issues in the appropriate manner. It’s a big responsibility to be sure, so don’t abuse the privilege!
A sugar dating relationship is temporal by nature, so having realistic expectations is absolutely necessary in order to get the most out of the experience without putting yourself at a disadvantage. Throughout every stage of the relationship, you absolutely must maintain your level-headedness and discernment, and always make sure to act in your best interests. Being a sugar daddy is not for the weak-willed or the gullible, so have fun by all means, but always look out for number one.
Taste for adventure
Finally, learn to let go of your inhibitions and to have fun. Although this may seem to contradict the previous suggestion of keeping your wits about you, sugar dating is as much about having fun and enjoying the experience as it is about protecting yourself. Try to strike the balance between caution and joyousness. If you take the time to find the right sugar baby–someone you can trust implicitly–you will find that being a sugar daddy is one of the most enjoyable and most rewarding roles you could ever fill in your life.